Tree Climbing & Kids

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There’s one thing my kids cannot seem to get enough of on our African adventure – tree climbing. EVERY CHANCE THEY GET!

We get palm trees in Kuwait, lots of them, and they certainly add to the oasis look and feel of the desert. But it is very rare that you come across a tree that is climb worthy. It’s no wonder that when the kids come home to SA they are in tree climbing heaven. I am no professional and i’m not about to hash out statistics about why climbing trees is good for kids, all I can do is tell you what we have experienced first hand.

  • Outdoor play – the kids are always outdoors. The weather is amazing, the air is clean and they are constantly being drawn to the trees outdoors. I love the fact that it happily keeps them off their screens and tablets.
  • Creativity – its amazing what the kids come up with only one large earth grown prop around. Did you know that the ground is lava?! And apparently hide and seek can actually be played in a tree? And bark rubbing crafts are so much fun.
  • Gross Motor skills – they are constantly lifting their body weight, moving it around, pulling it up, pushing it through. They’re finding out what their bodies are capable of. Big movements left and right encourage both hemispheres of the brain to work together to solve problems. Excellent when you have a dual dominance child which means that both right brain and left brain competing for dominance.
  • Understanding their own limitations – they are discovering what they are capable of. They are figuring out when to climb higher and when to step down a little. And the joy in their faces when they climb higher than the day before is priceless.
  • Respect for nature – I am answering questions all day long about why we have trees in this world and why they are important, how do birds make nests, what animals live in trees, etc.

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We have only 3 weeks left of our holidays and I think the kids will miss the trees the most. Next to family of course.

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Happy Climbing,

la

As a disclaimer, I do urge you to please keep a close watch on your kiddos, safety first!

 

Fresh Starts & Fall Resolutions

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I love the Fall. It affects all my senses. The smell of the crisp air, the feel of the temperatures going down and the cozy sweaters, the taste of all the pumpkin spice deliciousness, the sound of leaves crunching on the ground, and the way the light changes to a bluer tone. It is definitely the season where I miss Virginia the most. I know, the first day of Fall is technically not for another month, but schools are starting and I can already see the light changing. No matter where we are, about this time every year, I feel energized and a thrill of excitement for the adventures Fall will bring.

Especially the start of the new school year, which is more motivating than New Year’s Day to me. It is a fresh start, ripe for new and better habits and routines. Like the blank pages of our new notebooks and agendas, this year is free of blemishes and scribbles and open for all the possibilities that learning and imagination will bring.

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With a new set of school supplies I always felt armed and ready to be the best student I could be. I would sit at my desk that first day, open-hearted and eager to learn. Now as a mom, I get that thrill for my kids. What will they learn? Who will their teachers be? Will they make new friends and rekindle their old friendships after a summer apart?

Whether it is a new school or a familiar one, stepping foot on campus that first day everyone will be able to feel the vibrations of excitement in the air, both nervous and joyful.

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This is the first week of school for my soon-to-be second grader and it is turning out to be busy. As I sat down with my brand new Simplified Planner, by our grace-guru Emily Ley. I was that little girl again, full of hope for a great year. I know this Fall will be busy for our family, there are already lots of events that need to be added to the calendar, but I am hopeful that we will find the balance between being busy and being overwhelmed. Rather than waiting until January for a New Year’s resolution, I’m committing to balance as my Fall resolution. I promise to be intentional with my planning and say “no” more to make room for the better “yeses.” Honestly, it is never too early, or too late, for a fresh start. Will you join me? #fallresolutions2017

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How are you feeling about the Fall coming? If you are already feeling overwhelmed then I want to encourage to take a moment to enjoy the spirit of Fall and remind you that you have a choice you can be intentional with your time and say “no” to the things that don’t bring you joy.  Seriously, the holidays will be here before we know it!

Happy Fall everyone,

kdg

 

My thankful heart

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Katie and I both seem to have the ‘feels’ this week.

As I sit at the deli up the road from the house, I watch the children playing in the sand. I’m always taken aback at how easy it is for them to make friends. Sometimes it’s literally a matter of seconds. I envy their openness and kindness and while I would like to take credit for this skill of theirs, I think I’m a lot more shy and reserved than they are. I praise them for this gift whenever I can as I want them to see the good in people every chance they get.

When you choose an expat life the first thing you lose is your support system. Everyone you know, everyone who knows you is gone, everyone who would be there for you at the drop of a hat is now at least 2 flights and a day away. You find yourself alone. Really alone. When I first moved to Kuwait I would never be caught dead in a coffee shop by myself or at the movies alone. Now it seems like such a simple thing which really isn’t a big deal and dare I say it, even nice at times. I think that shows how much I have grown and changed over the years and how living abroad has toughened me up. I will never forget the time I moved into my first place with a car boot (trunk for my American friends) full of Ikea specials. I dragged each box up to my apartment by myself one by one and when everything was up I began to unpack and build. I remember sinking to the floor in  despair when the instructions called for me to ask a friend to hold one side of the wardrobe while I set up the other. “Ask a friend?” I laughed, what friend?! And that was the moment I realised that life really isn’t always going to go according to plan, script, or instruction.

Over the years I came out of my shell and learned to make friends, friends that would ultimately come and go given the nature of this expat travel region. I still feel blessed to be close to each one of those friends to this day. As, Katie so beautiful puts it.

“my heart has been left in pieces around the world in the hands of our family and treasured friends”

(she’s one of them)

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My friends and my family back home support us from a distance with understanding and love. Overtime as we travel home for holidays they are there with open arms and open hearts and even more so… open homes. It’s not easy living out of people’s homes as a family of 5 and yet they take us in so graciously. They babysit my kids so I can make doctors appointments, they drag us to remote places to experience hidden gems, they feeds us with familiar tastes from home, but most importantly, they love us as if we never left at all. So to all the friends and families supporting loved ones over seas, from the bottom of my heart THANK YOU! Thank you for keeping the connection across thousands of miles and many years. Thank you for making the world a smaller place and thank you for making my world a colourful world indeed.

Cheers with a thankful heart,

la

Home is where {a piece} of your heart is

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“I have so many feelings!” This is my exclamation when my beloved husband asks what’s up? I am a jumbled up, hot mess of feelings these days. We are heading back to Tel Aviv soon and I’m excited for this next year and the adventures awaiting us there and of course getting to see our pup – every dog makes us miss her. That said, my heart is breaking just a little, all over again.

They say “home is where your heart is.” If that is true, my heart has been left in pieces around the world in the hands of our family and treasured friends, with most of those pieces in Virginia. Oh, the bittersweet life of an expat!

I’m typing as we weave our way around the the streets of our old neighborhood in Alexandria, Virginia pointing out favorite spots to the boys and my nose is tingling. It was a good life we lived here. Our boys were born here. As you can imagine, there are so many memories flooding back. We truly loved living off the beautiful George Washington Parkway, all the colonial brick buildings and streets of Old Town, and the small town feel right outside the metropolis of our Nation’s capitol. Oh the feelings!

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Although Alexandria was a literal home for us and holds our little family’s history, there are pieces of our heart scattered across the state.

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Warrenton, VA is where our love story began and where I tearfully moved for my senior year of High School from Kansas. It’s where I started Young Life and grew so much of my faith. It is a quaint little town that is simply booming! From old town and Main St. hosting shops and restaurants to the bustling businesses and amenities we didn’t have 15 years ago. Driving west on Route 66 to Warrenton may be a nightmare some days, but once we arrive it has so many good memories for us. Not to mention, it is on the way to the mountains.

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Visiting the Shenandoah Valley is like a family tradition. It is where I experienced my very first hike and camp adventure. There is a lot to appreciate up there including the glorious views, walking and hiking trails, well kept campsites, flora and fauna, local shops and restaurants, and the knowledgable rangers, staff, and volunteers – a couple of which we call family. I highly recommend Fall up there it is simply awe-inspiring to see all the warm tones!

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Fredericksburg, VA was my home for 4 years while I attended the University of Mary Washington. Those were great years full of laughs, learning, and growing up. Another growing town with new things every time we visit. The old town streets are charming with shops and restaurants, including one of our post college favorites, the Capitol Ale house. The college itself expanded in the decade since I graduated with new buildings and a pedestrian bridge across Route 1, and new amenities. Go Eagles!

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Williamsburg, VA holds a big chunk of our hearts from our college years. The College of William Mary, Colonial Williamsburg, Bush Gardens, and Water Country USA, are all attractions that keep us coming back annually. Williamsburg is a part of the Colonial Triangle, along with Jamestown and Yorktown and we definitely recommend checking them out and diving into all that history. In Colonial Williamsburg (CW) we visit the Cheese Shop for Virginia ham sandwiches with their special house dressing, stroll around the historic streets, and visit the W&M bookstore. Go Tribe!

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South of the Colonial Triangle is Virginia Beach and some of our favorite beach bums. From the Bay to the boardwalk there is a ton to do! We particularly enjoy playing on the shore and going mini golfing with our family and friends. Meeting at Chick’s Oyster Bar for a meal is also one of our family traditions. This is one stop on our usual tour we sadly didn’t get to make this year.

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A couple of years ago my parents moved to Woodbridge, VA near Occoquan and although I didn’t grow up in their new house, it is where one of the biggest chunks of my heart lives, which is why it feels like home just being there with my family. We spend our days relaxing and spending time on the Potomac River. It is glorious!

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Out near the mountains between Fredericksburg and the Charlottesville is Orange County, VA. This picturesque county is full of small towns and history. For us it is where our boys experience farm life – running in fields, feeding a horse, working in the garden, climbing trees, getting dirty, and a cookie jar filled with Grandma’s cookies.

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This is by no means an exhaustive list of places to visit in Virginia, there are so many other towns and cities in Virginia that make the state a great place to live, explore, and adventure. There are wine and ale trails, fantastic eateries, arts and crafts, music, museums, and outdoor activities; all covered in warm hospitality with rich history. I highly recommend visiting or touring the state for lovers of all the above! For more information or help planning your trip check out the tourism site. #LoveVA

I am so thankful to call Virginia home and for all the people who loving keep the pieces of my heart here with them – I miss you all dearly!

Do you have pieces of your heart scattered around the world? How do you cope with leaving home? Travel safely everyone and cherish each moment in each place you call home.

from Virginia with love,

kdg

Painting, if my kids can do it, so can I

IMG_1311 copyWhen I was in Junior High, my top 3 subjects at school were Art, History and Accounting, 97% for all 3, but who’s counting right?! With my heart in the arts from the beginning I continued down that path with a skip in my step. My grade 12 art finals were the last time I painted anything of significance. I mentioned before how my gran is an artist and how she really inspired me as a child and into early adulthood to embrace my creative side.

Almost 20 years later I find myself inspired once again to pick up the brush and dust off the old easel. I have started painting again and I’d like to take you through my first few pieces. What I have found so many years later is that my skill set for composition has greatly improved from my experience in advertising and more recently in photography. My understanding of colour has grown in leaps and bounds with my studying of interior design. That last point was a surprise to me. I thought I knew all there was to know about colour, turns out there’s so much more to how, why and when certain colours go together, which is one of the many inspirations behind this blog –  you’re welcome.

Side note: There’s an important lesson here, never stop learning in life. You may find yourself using your newly found knowledge in unexpected places. With our whole lives ahead of us, and so much information out there, there are so many channels to enrich our characters and influence the people we will become, and ultimately, the legacy we leave behind.

Let me take you through my process. Go easy on me, like I said, it’s been almost 20 years.

The concept

  • Inject joy into the images that I capture in and around Kuwait.

How

  • With careful consideration of the use of colour in my painting of these images onto canvas.

The process

  • My starting point is photography. I go on many walkabouts in and around the city. After I select my personal, favourite photos I begin to work on these images, one at a time. I prefer to work from photographs I have taken and not from other’s work as this makes it personal and original, not simply a painted copy of someone else’s vision.
  • With a 4×6 print carefully taped to the easel I start with a loose sketch. From there I carefully pre-select my colours. With my pallet board prepped, my brushes and pallet knives ready to go, I begin the process of trying to extract the interpretation of the photograph I see in my mind and project it onto the canvas using acrylic paint.

Kuwait Water Towers:

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Typical Kuwait Date Palm Tree:

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  • My most recent work explores mixed media. I do enjoy the structure that photography brings, but I prefer the depth I get from painting.

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The only way I know whether I am finished or not is when something inside me says: “Yes, that’s what I saw and that’s what I want to show people” 

Now that the painting is finished, what do I do with them? You may remember my friend and inspiring cultural photographer, Kirrily Morris, also based here in Kuwait, she has started an Instagram and Facebook art gallery called PhotoArt Kuwait. She invited me to join her gallery so this will be my main platform for now. It is a place where people can purchase slices of Kuwait life and hold on to the moments of joy that this season has brought them.

We would love for you to follow us and keep a look out for new work being added to the Instagram and Facebook account often!

Special thanks for the courage to pursue a long forgotten passion goes to my children. I saw them painting so confidently and so proudly and I envied that. I always thought that painting is something I’d love to get back into, but filled my head with lies thinking that it was something to be left behind in my childhood. But why? Why not paint? Isn’t it great that our kids are able to teach us something, that WE can learn from THEM! If my kids can do it, with such confidence and joy then so can I. And so can you! Honestly, no matter what it turns out like as long as long as you enjoy the process it is worth it!

Happy painting,

la

 

Photography: Father and Son

I was so deeply inspired and moved by Jenny’s post on Sunday, Flavors of Fatherhood, that it further inspired me to look at the father closest to me here in Kuwait, yup, the one I chose to be the father of my children, my husband. As young and in love 20 somethings we get married for our own selfish desires, and rightly so, this is the person WE plan to spend the rest of OUR lives with, we better choose carefully right. But more than that, for me, this was the man I was also choosing to be the father of my future babies. And I simply could not have picked a better dad for my children than this one.

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A year ago, he came to me with this idea that he wanted to do a father and son golf themed photo session and I was all over it. What a charming way to capture this season of life. Our son was 2 and at the perfect age for this assignment. Still holding onto his baby cuteness but old enough to follow guided instructions.

Date and Time – April (Warming up here in Kuwait), 8am

Weather – warm and hazy, dust started to creep in by 10am

Location – Golf Course

Top Tip – We had spoken to one of the members of staff about the session and they were able to take us to a part of the course which they new would be empty that time of the morning. And since he then escorted us, we had no problems trying to explain what we were doing to security. Always get approval ahead of time when shooting on location, it will make for a smooth stress free morning.

The morning was a huge success, our little guy was on top form and just loving all the one to one attention without his sisters around. And my husband was more than thrilled with the results. He has his favourite three photos printed and proudly displayed in his office. I know that he will hold that moment in time close to his heart always and it was an honour for me to be able to have gifted him, them, with that.

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Now before anyone accuses us of favouring the boy, we are planning on doing a daddy-daughters session as well we just haven’t quite found the right theme yet. So if anyone has any original ideas, I’d love to read them in the comments below.

To quote Jenny “There are many different kinds of fathers in this world. There is the stoic father who labourers tirelessly for his family, expecting his actions to speak the words he can’t seem to share.” – Thank you my darling husband for everything that you do for us, for your actions in our lives are deafening.

Cheers to the dads

la

Have the last word

No one stops to think what their last words may be to someone they love. No one stops to think about the last words written either. I do.

The reason…

My mother Meryll, passed away due to complications from surgery at the age of 49. I was 27. My mother never got to meet my children. They will never get to know their grandmother. The last written words I have to remember her by are found in a hand written journal from her time in hospital. When she had a pipe down her throat she used this journal to communicate with visitors and nurses. Sadly, these are the last words I have from her. Not words a daughter would ordinarily choose to keep, but precious words none-the-less. The content of some of her sentences are really hard to read but just seeing her tangible hand writing makes me feel closer to her.

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I sit here almost 8 years later reflecting on my own little family and I am faced with the reality that tomorrow is not promised to anyone. I have so many questions for my mom and would give anything to be able to sit down with her, I would drink coffee and she would have her favourite Rooibos Honey tea, as she always did, and we would talk for hours. I would ask her not only questions about parenting, but questions about marriage, too. She died 3 months before my wedding. So many things were left unsaid. So many big issues in life I have had to figure out for myself, moments where having my mom around would have come in handy. No offence Dad, but advice on birthing, delivery, and postpartum really can only come from a mom 😉

My last spoken words to my mom were “I’ll speak to you soon” – I never did.

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Below is the last entry she ever wrote in that book, what bothers me more than her last few written words, is the fact that there is more than half the book left blank; so many things left unsaid and still so many pages left open, waiting to be filled with words never written.

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My plan is to leave my 3 kiddos a journal specific to each child. Of course when it comes to generic news I will most likely type something up and print out 3 copies to insert, dated, into each book. I hope that one day when they’re old and grey these books will be relevant, but if life has other plans and I have to check out early,  I’m glad I will be able to leave them a few of their mother’s words. Good words, positive ones, funny ones, inspired ones, words of love and devotions. Words of pure heart. Memories that all too quickly seem to fade.

So I encourage you, if you have ever wanted to pen something, or a collection of somethings, to your children, do it! Do it now! Online images will move down your timeline, out of site and out of mind, but classic handwritten words, are priceless.

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“Fill your paper with the breathings of your heart” – William Wordsworth

with love,

la

The Crayon Books

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Ever since I was a little a girl, a fresh box of Crayola Crayons has made my heart so happy. That yellow and green branded box held so much possibility and potential creative outlets. My ‘artbrain’ liked to imagine that each color had a it’s own personality, opinions, and origin stories. Like Jungle Green was a really laid back fellow from Costa Rica and Burnt Sienna was from a cattle ranch out West. We had some really good times, my crayon friends and I, as I learned to color in{and OUT}side the lines. I even remember the first time I bought a box of crayons for my son, imagining we would be spending time coloring side by side, that vision wasn’t very realistic when he was only 18 months old, ha!

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Then one day my childhood fantasies of a crayon world became a “reality” in the pages of a Christmas gift from Tio Russ. Our beloved Tio, had bought the boys two fantastic books about a set of crayons who wrote letters to their owner. The Day the Crayons Quit and The Day the Crayons Came Home, written by Drew Daywalt and illustrated by Oliver Jeffers, are now staple readings and gifts in the DG house.

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The Day the Crayons Quit is a series of letters to a poor little boy, Duncan, from his unhappy crayons. Each color has it’s own grievance from being overly used to being naked! Duncan just wants his crayons to be happy, so in the end he comes up with a creative solution to take care of his “friends.”

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The Day the Crayons Came Home is equally as witty and cheeky and introduces us to some other colors including the geographically challenged Neon Red Crayon and the egocentric Pea Green aka Esteban the Magnificent. Let me tell you the giggles that I hear when my oldest reads these letters to himself make my heart sing!

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These books are perfect for elementary age children and parents –  I promise you will laugh out loud too. The fantastic child-like handwritings and illustrations by Oliver Jeffers brings each crayon to life. New readers will enjoy conquering each letter and older readers, for example, can use the series to learn about the use of perspective in literature. In addition, the The Crayon Books website has educational materials for teachers and parents. Full disclosure, I just found about about the two new additions to the crayon book universe, The Crayons’ Book of Numbers and The Crayons’ Book of Colors while researching for this post and have since order them for my 3 year old.  

My family highly recommends these fun and creative crayon books it.  They combine our love for reading, color, and laughter perfectly. I am genuinely inspired by Drew and Oliver’s collaboration as well.

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If you are a fan like us, go check out the Every Crayon Counts site and share your thoughts…um, I mean, support for the Crayons Union! #supportthecrayons #thedaythecrayonsquit #everycrayoncounts

Color on!

kdg

Celebrating seven years

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On May 14th, 2010, I became a mom. Our oldest son came into this world as the first (great) grandson on both sides of our family and the first of the next generation in our friends group. There is no doubt he is abundantly loved. In his short life he has lived in 3 countries and traveled to 7 others. He is clever, compassionate, kind, extroverted, and he has a great sense of humor.

Inspired by Lindy-Ann’s post about capturing kids parties, I thought it would be fun to feature his SEVEN birthday parties.

Every year, we (him included) choose a theme for his birthday and we go for it, I mean all in. This year we are treading on new territory with our first drop-off party (eek) and his theme of choice: disco water party, ha!

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For the first three years we were stateside and I was blessed to be able to throw these fantastic parties with the help of my girls. My friend Joy is an amazing cake artist and a my girl Melissa really knows how to execute a plan! Each year the theme was consistent throughout the party: invite, cake, and activities. It made the parties delicious, colorful, and fun!

Conditions – Outdoor at a park with a pavilion – both shade and full sun

Prep – These early parties taught me to pack camera, extra batteries, and SD cards the night before all events and shoots.

Lesson learned – Each year something would go wrong, but I learned (still learning) that, if I roll with it, it might turn out better than I planned. Also, high Shutter Speeds are crucial when capturing kids!

The Hungry Caterpillar

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Cars (the movie)

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Pirates

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Fourth & Fifth birthday – Kuwait

Our Kuwait village really stepped up to make these two parties really special, including baking cakes and cupcakes, as I am not a baker.

Conditions – May in Kuwait is hot! Both parties were indoors at our flat. In addition to natural light from the windows and artificial lights, an angled flash was needed at times.

Prep – Opened all the curtains and had extra batteries on hand. The backdrop was positioned out of the way of the flow of the party and opposite a window to get as much natural light as possible.

Lesson learned – Work with your space and conditions as best you can with a flash and high ISO and then adjust lighting in post production as needed.

Planes (the movie)

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The Lego Movie

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Sixth birthday – Virginia, USA

It was such a treat to celebrate stateside again! Our venue changed from our favorite park to Joy’s house in hopes of pool party. Those were dashed when we woke up to temperatures in the low 60s. We made the most of it though and had a fantastic time with the space for the pinata, scavenger hunt, and Jedi training!

Conditions – Outdoors, windy, and sunny

Prep – Back up batteries and SD card.

Lesson learned – Duct tape doesn’t always work, especially with fabric backdrops, try hot glue guns or staple guns and clamps for fabric backdrops. Again, be ready for anything, especially the weather.

Star Wars

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Seventh birthday – Tel Aviv, Israel

Our first drop-off party was a success! We may have been exhausted afterward, but the birthday boy said it was an “awesome party” and the decorations were “lovely.” Worth it!

Conditions – Outdoors in harsh midday lighting

Prep – formatted SD card

Lesson learned – Pulling the images together I realized that my biggest lesson learned is that with only the two of us we weren’t able to get a family shot this time. A tripod at the ready would have been helpful or of course a selfie would work too, ha!

Disco Water –

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In the end, it is fun to see how much we both have grown over the years. My precious baby really is a big kid now and I’m happy to say my skills have evolved. I can’t wait to see what EIGHT looks like for us!

We’d love to hear from you, please share your most memorable birthday party themes in the comments!

Cheers,

kdg

PS – I had to share my favorite shots of Lindy-Ann from the Lego party. Everything is indeed AWESOME! 

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Raising Arrows

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Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Psalm 127:4

This is one of my favorite verses for this season of life. As a mom of boys (MOB) it is the sweetest honor and the greatest challenge to raise good men and strong arrows. The kind of men that will treat women well, cherish their friendships, speak life into situations, and be diplomatic, as well as strong, in their convictions. The kind of men a father would want his daughter to date and marry. I married one of those men, and my dad is simply one the best!

There is so much we can worry about day to day for all our kids, but establishing their foundation is the one thing we need to focus on. Both of my boys are kind, compassionate, and clever, however they are occasionally prone to whining, brawling, and driving me nuts! That said, at the end of each day I tell them I love them as we cuddle in bed and remind them that we will start again fresh the next day. There is grace in ending even the most miserable days with that routine. It also establishes in their hearts that they are known and loved by us and the one that created them. Their worth is not in what their peers think, how well they did in school, or their successes and failures throughout life.

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Along with a firm foundation of love, it is our job to help them figure out who they are as people. One tool that we are using to help us is the concept of the 5 Love Languages. Wouldn’t it be great to affirm your child in they way the feel loved the most? For example, our oldest receives love through physical touch and words of affirmation, so if we hug him and tell him we are proud of how he reacted to a situation it is a like a 1-2 punch of encouragement!

When he was little he would toddle around decapitating dandelions and bringing them to me saying, “a lion flower for you” and then give me a cuddle. Somehow inside him, he innately knew he should bring the girl he loved a beautiful flower. My husband is a great example of thoughtfulness and on occasion will buy flowers, but not often enough for a tiny boy to be able to pick up on. Looking back on it, we can see his giving love language is gift giving and physical touch.

Once he learned not to pick the flowers, since they are for everyone to appreciate, he started to point them out to me, “Mom look!” He is even keen to go photograph them with me, which he has learned makes my heart happy.

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These days my three year old picks the blossoms of weeds for me and demands I put them in my hair. All at once it makes me laugh, feel loved, and reminisce about the sweet “lion flowers” of years past. That said, he is altogether different. Words of affirmation is his giving and receiving love language, he says, “you’re so beautiful Mom”, and “I’m a cool kid.” ha! The first time he did it I was stunned and literally laughed out loud!

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I don’t ever want them to lose those sweet, innocent, and thoughtful habits so I work hard to reaffirm and praise them. These are moments that make all of the mess worth it. Like a light at the end of the tunnel, I can image each of them telling their wife she is beautiful and bringing her flowers.

Have you figured out your child’s love language? If you have never read about the 5 love languages I encourage you to look into the concept, it could be a game changer in your family’s life!

You can download the FREE Raising Arrows printable here.

lots of love warrior,

kdg

IACW - Kate's arrows